What leads you to feel confident?
You don’t often hear that question, do you?
Instead, what you most often hear is when someone lacks confidence.
Because the brain works on “deletion,” often people ONLY talk about confidence when it’s lacking.
But you rarely hear about all the ways someone is confident, do you?
Which, as it turns out, is the shortest path to solving any lack of confidence.
Confidence is contextualized
What I mean here is, when people lack confidence they tend to “generalize” the problem.
Meaning they’ll make an overarching statement like—
“I lack confidence.”
Or lacking confidence in a certain context, they’ll generalize this too—
e.g. “I lack confidence at public speaking.”
If you point out to them, “You’ve been speaking in public your entire life!”
They’ll say, “Hahaha, you know that’s not what I mean.”
But, actually, that is what I mean.
It’s an obvious fact that you speak to people in public!
Yet, in their brain, and for many of us, something changes when the context is “public” speaking.
You may have never jumped from a plane but you know the notion of terminal velocity.
“You’re in a reality bubble,” she said.
