I didn’t like the feeling I left from that newsletter last week.
In being so “right,” I was being so wrong.
I was disappointed that the two readers weren’t getting what they want and I failed to take responsibility.
Instead of pointing to the articles that I have put out to be helpful, I failed to see where my approach was letting them down.
Reflecting on this got me thinking radically different.
I read Ray Dalio’s book Principles last week, and it helped me dive deeper into some of these things.
His brutal honesty and good hearted intent, the proverbial iron fist in a velvet glove, comes across well in his writing, which got me thinking more about mine.
But most of all what I got from Ray was a continuous drumming of the importance of radical truth.
Through this lens I saw in that newsletter I was putting their lack of action onto them, when I first must put it onto me.
If someone I know hasn’t taken the right action, then I have failed to do what I can for them.
If people are reading these newsletters for years and still not doing them, then I’m obviously failing to reach the right people or failing to deliver people what they need.
I don’t write because being a self-help expert is cool… but to share ideas that are actually helpful to people, yet I failed to see where I wasn’t helping.
The same is true with the other emailer I wrote about.
If she’s taking the time to write and tell me that my work sucks, then it does for her…
It was wrong of me to make her wrong, when I should be asking what I can do more right.
I’m Not Nike
Instead of learning the lesson and really thinking about what I must do better to serve people, I responded like a Nike slogan…