A buddy told me that in writing about my most amazing discovery on feeling how you want, I alluded to an uber secret to happiness and then dropped the mic and walked off stage. It’s somewhat true… In some ways my work is done. I’ve spent the better part of 20 years obsessively seeking answers …
She asked me, rhetorically. She knew the answer but it was still elusive for her. “There is no when, is there?” she said shyly. Full Of Whens When I get that house. When I get paid. When I get the big job. When I’ve built my business. When I’m in shape. When I find someone …
In the last couple of decades, the focus of my work has been through three major evolutions: In the old days it was about getting what you want because I believed that would make my life everything I imagined. Coming from a place of lack the brain seeks those things it thinks will make it …
In 2010 when I moved to Vail Colorado I was escaping to the mountains for more than just the skiing. It was the hardest time in my life, and I was there to transform. I had chosen a job that was way too hard for me, I was stuck in my work, feeling like crap …
Light it all up… Really, light it all up. Pump it up. Get excited. All fired up. Now, let it all go. Take a deep breath and slowly exhale. That’s right, pump it up. And let it all go. That’s The Cure Actually, just the first two steps, Leading With The Physical. Using your body …
It’s 7:27 am. I’ve breached one of my protocols. I haven’t had enough sleep, but the body is so full of energy I just got up, and sat down here to get the day flowing. My sleep app says I fell asleep at 2:22, so I’m running on less than 5 hours, which I generally …
When I’m doing what I want, then I’ll feel amazing. I didn’t tell myself that. If you had asked me all those years ago when I was just so desperately scrambling to escape my life and be living the life I truly wanted… I would have said I was happy. Running like mad to figure …
“Are we having fun yet?” Today I woke with these lyrics playing in my head. I’ll get to the song in a bit. It’s not even that relevant, but the theme is very much one thing I’ve been focused on in quarantine. Let me ask you something— Have you gotten happier in quarantine? It’s not …
As the story goes, Bill Gates Snr. asks Warren Buffett his greatest ingredient to success— “Focus,” Buffett replied. Gates agreed. That’s the story from Alice Schroeder’s book, The Snowball. But you don’t need this to know… Focus is your snowball It’s focus that gets you moving. And focus that keeps you building momentum. We all …
Now, first I’ll say, I know this isn’t you. I doubt you would have been putting up with me this long if you were one of these people this survey says are— Binge watching TV 8 hours a day during the lockup. No way that’s you. But I also know that even the most effective …
My best learnings on the mind are called Intel 1-4. I can’t say where I got this intel, only that these are the most important commandments I follow. Intel 3 describes the endless cycle of thinking and doing that keeps humanity stuck on the treadmill. Ultimately… As you see in the diagram, this cause and …
A girl can’t dream anymore. How many young girls dream to be a princess? To be swept off her feet by a ginger prince charming? Only to discover as Meghan Markle has… Not All It’s Cracked Up To Be I’d say she’s looked pretty unhappy since she woke from the first kiss. No surprise; his …
Is how many highly successful people are unfulfilled. Not to name names. But even some of the most accomplished leaders will never be satisfied with what they’ve achieved. Never escape the feeling of lack. Feeling there’s something they didn’t do. Need to do. It used to be shocking to me how few winners feel like …
Sometimes find yourself unable to focus on what matters most? Procrastinating? Resisting? Avoiding? Seeking distraction? How would you be if you got beyond those things that hold you back? Unleashing your best performance. Feeling amazing at will absorbing in your highest-value tasks? Living The House of Flow For nearly a decade I’ve been honing in …
Normal in our world is having never trained your mind. I’d rather be dead. Seriously, this is heaven. That Mind Is Hell Constantly thinking. 70,000 mostly redundant, shit thoughts. Addicted to distraction. Fear, of basically everything. Uppers to get started. Booze, pills, drugs to shut it down. Worry, FOMO, anxiously picking up devices every 8 …
Whenever I talk about negative thinking I need a good bath to wash it off. You can never ignore this elephant dung in the room… But you also never want to get stuck in it. As I talk about in the track below, like cleaning out a wound it’s necessary to clear out limited thinking, yet …
I’m Done. When I sat back and read last week’s newsletter I felt this feeling wash over me. Most my life I’ve been baffled by what we are and how we live, and I’ve solved it, at least to satisfactory answers for me. I know it sounds lofty or arrogant or nutso to say “I’ve …
It was embarrassing. Like the first time walking into the boxing gym, except I thought I was good at this. How could I not be good at it? I’d worked at Goldman Sachs for some eight years at this point. Hundreds, thousands of meetings I had attended. Books, decks, presentations, whatever you call it, I’d …