Most of my life I’ve been crippled with fear.
Fortunately it has mostly been the fear of failing to live the most amazing life I can imagine, and it has only crippled me in doing things I don’t want to do.
Use Your Fear
In our society fear is often seen negatively, when in fact it is our savior.
Like insecurity which keeps us secure, and pain that tells us something is wrong, fear is a signal that gets our attention.
Fear is neither good nor bad, but merely a matter of how you respond to it.
In one of the two TV shows I watch, The Men Who Built America, Carly Fiorina says—
“The difference between people who succeed and people who fail, I think, in many cases, it’s not fear, everyone experiences fear. The difference is, what do you do with your fear? Do you work to overcome it or do you let it defeat you? I think that is actually what distinguishes very successful people from others.”
Then Break It
All of us know that in the face of fear our nervous system triggers a fight-or-flight mechanism.
But what many don’t recognize is that before we fight or flight, we freeze.
Like a deer in the headlamps, it is this freeze mechanism that gets most people shot. In the face of fear, they neither move towards or away. Unsure of what to do they do nothing, which is the meaning of being crippled by fear.
Instead, take on the things you fear. Engage your fear. Sense it. Smell it. Taste it. Roll around in it. Play with it.
And then break its friggin’ back!