In particularly challenging situations my client finds himself doubting his abilities, and he wants to get rid of the problem.
When he described it to me he saw it as pervasive across his ENTIRE life, whereas I suggested that he see it as merely a series of tiny problems.
It’s like the story in Gulliver’s Travels where Gulliver finds himself as a giant on the island of Lilliput, which is inhabited by tiny people.
Upon awakening Gulliver discovers that the tiny people have tied him to the ground with many tiny strings.
And although he could easily break any one of the strings, he remains trapped by the great number of tiny strings binding him.
My client was the same way.
He wasn’t being held back by this big “thing” called “self-doubt,” it was merely an aggregation of small doubts that crept in from time to time.
He saw he didn’t need a big solution to a big problem, he just needed to, every time the problem arises, snip it…
For instance, last week presenting in front of a big group, he began doubting himself.
In the past whereas he would have lamented, “I always doubt myself in these situations,” this time he told himself, “I will present confidently and never doubt myself again.”
Then, after presenting confidently, he reminded himself that earlier he had doubted himself but once again he came through with the goods.
Now, this doesn’t mean the old problem is gone…yet.
Given he’s been practicing doubting himself for some time he might still feel this way in the same or other situations, but every time he changes it, like Gulliver, he’s snipping another of those tiny strings and making himself more free!