We submitted an article to Forbes, and they said, “No.”
My editor said to me, “This is great because they told us exactly what to create, if we want to publish with them.”
I said to him, “Exactly, that’s why I have you on my team.”
You can always choose how you see things, and I need people around me who too see the world through “gold colored glasses.” That is, I need people around me who are good at “reframing.”
A reframe that we are all familiar with is, “Every cloud has a silver lining,” which means, no matter what, you can always find a positive side.
This classic reframe, of the variety, “Don’t see it that way, see it this way,” enables you to change the way that you perceive any and all things.
One of my favorite reframes from NLP is, “There is no such thing as failure, only feedback.” Failure can set you back, but feedback only makes you better.
To some people, reframes are merely tricks of the mind, but in all actuality, the lens through which we see the world is all that matters in our minds.
With the drizzly, overcast weather, you could be bummed out, or walk around feeling like we are one day closer to a real spring.
An injured back could be “the worst” thing in the world, or you could see it is in times of sickness that we truly learn to value our health.
Going to work could be the “last thing” that you want to do, or you could imagine yourself standing in a line with food stamps.
I once read about how, in a certain hospital, the happiest employees were the janitors whose job included emptying bedpans and cleaning up other mess.
When they asked those employees who were doing some of “the worst” jobs, what made them so happy, they consistently said, “We don’t see ourselves as cleaning up mess, but as an essential part of our patients’ care.”
No matter what, you can always reframe, including the ultimate reframe: YOU.
How do you perceive yourself? What do you believe is possible for you? How can you imagine yourself more and more happy changing one way that you perceive you?
For a few moments, sit back and consider, What is the absolute best frame of YOU?