Sitting at dinner in London, it’s obvious that the woman at my one o’clock is ready to go…
Dilated pupils, twirling her hair, playing with her necklace, stabbing her straw into her drink, she’s parading the most obvious signs of attraction, but her date has no idea.
She’d be embarrassed if she knew everyone in the room could tell what she was thinking, but fortunately, the rest of the room is as unaware as she and he are.
An entire conversation is playing out in front of me that nobody else can “hear.”
Stop Talking To Me
Walking into a top law firm I passed a man and a woman sitting in an office.
The man was sitting in his power pose, behind his big mahogany desk. The woman on the other side was squirming, every aspect of her body language saying, “get away from me.”
As the man kept talking, she kept leaning further back, her arms and legs twisted tighter and tighter like a pretzel, indicating (not definitively) that she didn’t want to hear what he was saying.
The man, in his mid-fifties, who presumably learned to speak five decades ago, still hadn’t learned how to communicate!
Your Words Are Mostly Meaningless
Us humans mostly associate communications with the words that are coming out of our mouths.
But, unfortunately, as anyone who has studied communications and influence knows, our words are only a tiny fraction of the message we are conveying.