I’m yet to meet someone who doesn’t suffer from fears or insecurities or worries, or what not.
We often think it’s just us, when as far as I can tell, it’s nearly all of us, if only we had a way to talk about it.
We all have thoughts in our heads and feelings in our bodies that hold us back; it’s just a matter of whether we let them.
Last week one of my friends opened up to me on some things he was embarrassed to talk about.
He’s a great guy. Really optimistic. Fun. A dreamer. A visionary. Business builder.
But he’s got some cats running around in his head.
Like most of us who’ve lived long enough, he’s had some bad stuff happen in his life.
His father passed away. He went through a tough time in his business. Other things happened that have been weighing him down.
He’s had a heaviness to his days.
A lethargy. Trouble getting focused on topics that matter. Some days struggling to get motivated.
“It’s Not Just You…”
I told him.
Now, while I won’t speak for all 7+ billion of us humans, I will say, if it’s not “all of us,” it’s certainly many of us.
A number of my clients I used to think were 100% confident, charismatic, secure, all-powerful leaders…
Then I got into their heads and saw, hmm, it looks good on the outside, but inside they’re holding it together with rubber bands and duct tape.
That didn’t make me respect them any less, but much more.
I saw they didn’t have some magical gift that made it easy for them to be amazing—they worked at it, doing their best to be their best, sometimes really struggling through it.
Most people who know them would never imagine that, but after years of being deep in the heads of successful people, I imagine this is true of most everyone.
A reason I know this is because I’m a pro, and it’s certainly true for me.
I Turned Pro Because of This
I said to my friend—